Ankit

36 | Married | Business owner.

I lost my mom in 1999 at the age of 12 years, It was a suicidal death. Struggling through the loss I was in a state of depression for some years. At one point of time I was blamed to be dramatic rather than ill. I came out of it and always tried to motivate people who felt depressed. Learnt what emptiness is & how it makes you feel. Since then I motivate everybody who I feel is depressed to come out of it.

My mother always wanted me to become an engineer, it took me 7 years to fulfill her dream. But I did complete it, struggling through the failures. The process was devastating. Learnt what failure is, learnt how failure moulds you to succeed if you want to.

Meanwhile I fell in love and was in a relationship for 7 years. Had a bad breakup as my partner was cheating on me. She cheated on me twice with different people. At the first instance I tried forgiving but then had to finish the relation. It was devastating, it was emotionally and mentally draining but I focused on my work and bounced back. Learnt you cannot control, control is just an illusion. Carry it right with me everywhere.

I had joined family business and there were a lot of ideological differences. Ran away from my home once and then returned more stronger and enthusiastic about life. Today my word carries importance. Learnt you have to make space for yourself with your uniqueness, I cannot be anybody else in a similar way how somebody else cannot be me.

During Covid got severely ill. Was in ICU for 15 days, at one point the doctors were doubtful on my survival. I saw people passing away. But still bounced back with comments from the doctor that I was the most lively and cooperating patient they had. Today I have some post covid side effects due to heavy medications I had to be in, but I realize the value of a number of things and people close to me.

I have fought depression, failure, breakup, expectations out of me and the death to again bounce back.
I have tried to remove depression from other peoples lives, I again fell in love and got married to them and never lost the faith in the word, I came out of failures to succeed and establish myself, I take decisions which sometimes turn out to be wrong but I do not get afraid of them.

I may not be a very big inspiration but I am sure I want to help people to be happy.

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